Weaving My Way Into Menopause

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Everywhere I look there are posts and article enticing me to take back my sexy, regain my libido, bring back the magic even in the midst of my moving into my menopausal years. I giggle at this constant urging to maintain the juiciness of my 20’s, 30’s, hell even my 40’s.

What if I don’t want to?!?!   wink

I think of my grandmothers at 52 (OK, I am almost 52). My Grams were not sporting around in lycra enhanced-legging style jeans, high heels, and low cut tops showing off cleavage (and one of my Grams had quite the cleavage to show off had she been so inclined).       They were being wise women, Grammas, women in the fall and winter seasons of their lives, crones with a twinkle! No pressure to have perky breasts and saunter out into the world looking and acting sexy.

I am not saying I am getting old. Hell, not even close my friends! I have many decades to indulge in the the pleasures and challenges of life:

  • yoga
  • mountain climbing
  • my kids & pets
  • hiking, canoeing, kayaking, and swimming about the ADK Mountains
  • hell, swimming in my backyard woods
  • diving deeper into my healer skills
  • hanging with my partner
  • music
  • friends
  • good food
  • gardening
  • making my community a better place for all
  • fun, fun, fun   (and not necessarily in this order)

As humans we only have a certain amount of energy to expend in a day’s time or over a lifetime. Some of us are more energetic than others… never the less, there is a finite amount of energy. When we no longer ovulate, creating that hormonal drive to procreate and pursue the best sperm donor (the innate drive to have sex!), our energies shift elsewhere. We focus on other things. This is a natural phenomena.

When a female dog (or any mammal) no longer ovulates and “goes into heat” said dog is not out looking for a hot male to stand for. Have a dog spayed, surgical menopause, and the lack of interest in standing for a male is immediate. No one expects that female dog to keep strutting her stuff.

I am told, when one moves through the initial years of menopausal happenings and a lack of desire (most of the time) that this desire thing returns. Returns in a different way… not the hormonal driven desire but as a gentler sort of desire. Hmm, thoughts ladies? If only we still lived in community sharing our wisdom from generation to generation…

Thoughts are always welcome, in fact, encouraged!



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Peak -n- Poke

It has been a while since I posted. I am shocked, looking at the date of October 24th! Where does the time go?

Chatting with my sister over the Thanksgiving holiday and she says… I have a peak n poke appointment on Friday. I, of course, shake my head in bewilderment and ask: “What exactly is a peak n poke appointment?”

To my utter amusement she says: “You know, the annual peak n poke!”

I immediately know she is now talking about the annual GYN visit. Only because of the word annual.

After working for years, as an RN, in OB/GYN care… peak n poke were never words used to describe the annual exam. I was still a bit confused and I am certain the look on my face displayed this.

“You know, they stick that thing in you so they can peak around, then they poke you with the wooden stick or the mini bottle brush thing!”

But, is it OK to poke?

Has anyone else every used the term Peak -n- Poke to describe the GYN exam?

To see what I have been up to for the past several weeks, click on over to  WHOLE FOOD HEALER ACADEMY


Secrets Of The Wise Woman Tradition

My plans, for now, are to use this blog to inform you of amazing wise women doing amazing things in the world. My energy for writing and healing work is being concentrated in my healing business. I do want to keep the energy of this blog alive as my love of women’s health runs passionately strong.
Meet Dr. Jillian Stansbury, a naturopathic physician who has practiced in SW Washington for 25 years specializing in women’s health, mental health, and chronic disease.
The Wise Woman Tradition is an ancient sisterhood, whereby the elders of the community, the herbalists and the grandmothers share the time tested healing ways with their families. Now, more than ever in our history, the Wise Woman Tradition must emerge as a beacon of light for our families, our communities and our world.

In the male dominated medical community, women are often made to feel belittled. PMS and Menopause are turned into a pathology, instead of being honored as a sacred cycle. Women are all too often not supported in their decision making. The natural intelligence of the woman, the intuition of the woman and the sensitivity of the woman is now needed more than ever… Dr. Stansbury is urging you to take your power back!

Dr. Jill Stansbury is a renowned healer, teacher, naturopath, author and torch-bearer of the Women’s Wisdom Tradition. Through her teaching, her medical practice and her writings, she has been helping to heal, educate and uplift women for over thirty years.

What You Will Learn In This Free Video Series:

  • How you can minimize costly medical bills by learning how to care for yourself and family with the healing powers of nature.
  • What the feminine mysteries are and how they are your path to claiming your birthright to radiant health.
  • How to stop battling illness by aligning with the body’s innate healing powers.
  • How to align with your true purpose, joy, and passions to reclaim radiant healthand much more!

Access this life-enhancing wisdom now >>

Click the link below to watch the short video and
begin your journey to carry the torch of the Wise Women.

Irons In The Fire!

Sometimes in life we know it is time to add more irons to the fire… sometimes we know we need to remove irons from the fire!

I am in the removing phase.

I may continue to post, on occasion, when I get a moment, an urge, and an inspiration.

I may meld my years of Maternal Child Wisdom into my full-time healing arts support service. I was 19 when I did my Maternal Child Nursing rotation and fell in love with the miracle of birth. This led me to fall in love with all things to do with the miracle of menstruation, conception, pregnancy, birthing, breast feeding, and mothering… all the things female and monthly, moon cycle related.

Life takes us where we need to go and I am letting life take me with it’s flow like a leaf in a stream! Join me on my blog there…http://www.paulayoumellrn.com/blog/

Massive Sale on Resources for Mothers

I credit this information to Lucy Pearce of Dreaming Aloud

Today I have two bargain resources for mamas to share with you – both on limited time sale offers…

First up, you may remember a few months ago I told you that I’d contributed the e-version of my book, Moods of Motherhood, to a very special resource -the New Mama Welcome pack.

Delivered over three months direct to their inbox, the New Mama’s Welcome Pack is bursting with supportive and uplifting digital goodies – e-books, audios – words from the heart full of love, experience, information and support – all designed to help a new mama make the most of this precious and exhausting time.

The pack is currently 90% off  – just £29 – (that’s about $48) on resources worth £290.

The sale runs from TUESDAY 30th SEPTEMBER @ 2pm GMT and CLOSE on FRIDAY 3rd OCTOBER @ 2pm GMT.

Read more here: http://dreamingaloud.net/2014/09/bargain-resources-mamas/

Cheers to all Moms and women who support Moms!

Fall Gift Giving Opportunities for the Females You LOVE!

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Fall is a marvelous time to gift the women you love. 

As women, in modern culture, we have been deprived of the sacredness of our menstrual cycles. We have been taught to think of menstruation as “The Curse” or some other equally negative connotation.

I am offering a gift to you so you can gift women in your life. It is a particularly awesome gift for young women who are coming into their womanhood. You can support the creation of a positive start to their menstrual years.


Women of all ages benefit from this beautiful book as the wisdom in the pages returns us to what we know: Females are awesome and our bodies and our body’s processes are amazing!

I am the exclusive USA distributor of Rachel Hertog’s book:

This is an amazing book that offers our female sacredness back to women; a return to the beauty of who we are and what our beautiful bodies were created to do:

  • menstruate, flow with the rhythm of the moon,
  • create new life,
  • birth that new life,
  • healers to ourselves and our communities.

I urge you to give this book as a gift to the special women in your life for:

  • Autumn Equinox (I know, it will be a late Equinox gift BUT simply apologize for being late with their gift. They will LOVE it and forgive you, I promise!)
  • Thanksgiving, both the Canadian & American holidays
  • All Hallows’ Eve, All Saints’ Eve, Samhain
  • Christmas, Solstice, Yule, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa
  • New Year’s Eve (start 2015 off from a place of divine female care and love!)
  • Look ahead to Valentine’s Day… this is a true gift of LOVE!
  • birthdays, anniversaries, etc!

Just gift the women you love with this awesome book. You will be glad, they will be glad you did!

Click here to buy a copy or two… or three for all the women you love!