Dancing with Menopause’s Magic

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It has been a bit of time since I posted here! Take a seat dear female friends… I have much to tell you and good Menopausal Magic to share with your feminine spirits.

My Natural Health Education / Functional Medicine Consultation practice is a busy space for me to be in!  And… I have been up to other stuff as well: new book released co-authored with a dearly loved, local healer friend, Jenny Morrill.

And…Keep reading for a peak into the new Vaginal Love herbal product I am releasing, soon, with another local healer and dear soul sister: Acupuncturist Shelby Connelly of Five Elements Living Retreat Center in Colton, NY.

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Our New Book To Inspire Your Self Healing

I am here today to share a bit of Menopausal Magical Wisdom. I confess, I do not have many symptoms of menopause. Once in a while a skipped period… but that is to be expected at 52.

Keeping the body healthy and avoiding symptoms of any dis – ease is an easy path to walk when you commit to self-care, self healing:

  1. Whole Food Eating 100% of the time
  2. Whole Health Lifestyle Choices

If interested in healing self… the resources on my Natural Health Education website can get you there for Free if you are committed to you!

So, what if I do have some symptoms of menopause, Paula?

Hot flashes, gushing periods leaking all over the place, moodiness, heart palpitations, etc., etc., etc?

Following the above whole food & whole health choices will self heal these menopausal change challenges.

Using herbs to nourish the body back to health is another great choice to assist the above whole health living habits. Herbs are plants. Plants are food. Food nourishes body cells.

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Red Raspberry Leaves tone the uterus. Who doesn’t want a fit, muscular, sexy uterus at any age? This helps to prevent all the “medical reasons” we get advised to cut it out of our bodies. Keep your beautiful uterus… it was meant to be in your pelvis: the bowl of your feminine wisdom!

Red Clover Flowers balance hormones and help to clean the blood.

Stinging Nettle Leaves are an awesome, amazing, whole body cell nourisher. If you took the time to read the Whole Food link back there… you now know that nourishing your body cells is key to vibrant health!

Motherwort: Hot flashes, heart palpitations, and moodiness anyone? Feel like you are about to snap? Let your Mother love you up.

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Sarsaparilla Root: a healthy liver breaks down hormones to be excreted through the colon. Sarsaparilla root helps to keep the liver healthy and doing its job of detoxing and breaking down hormones. Dandelion root, burdock root, and milk thistle seeds are other liver nourishing herbs to assist in healthy liver menopausal magic. (Shhhh, I did not make this tincture!)

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Flooding periods leaving a mess in your life (and clothes? Not to mention car seat, bed…) Wild Yam to the rescue! Years ago I used wild yam for birth control but that is another topic.   ; )     I came home to wild yam after I had my first, and only I might add, flooding period. I take 3 of these capsules every AM & every PM. No floods ever again for me. I suspect Wild Yam also nourishes my body cells to create a peaceful & magical menopausal transition for me (along with my whole food & living habits.)  So many women suffer from flooding and are told to get ablation (I would never, ever, recommend this procedure to anyone… find the root cause of your struggles and heal them!) and/or a hysterectomy (another procedure I would not recommend save for the very extreme reasons). Wild Yam also helps to keep our bones strong well into our Medicine Woman / Crone Wisdom Years! (This Link will take you to several post I have written on the magical nourishing effects of Wild Yam.)

Stay with me here good Women… I have a lot to say after so long a hiatus!

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OK, another HUGE issue with the menopausal years in what the medical field calls vaginal atrophy. Let me just say, creating such negative terms around the female body is just wrong. It keeps us in the mentality that there is something wrong with our bodies, that our feminine organs are innately weak and malfunctioning. This my friends is pure and unadulterated bullshit. We are strong; we have powerful and wise feminine organs!

If we follow Wise Woman Nourishing Healing Ways… see all my whole food / whole health suggestions above… our vaginas can remain strong even as we age.

Will they not age?

No, we can’t be silly, aging happens.

But, we can age with grace, strength, and divine dignity!

Eat well, play well, whole food – whole health yourself up, use herbs to nourish that which needs nourishing, have sex, do kegels… AND… here’s the biggy I have been waiting to share:

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A while back in my Wise Woman blogging career, I wrote a post on Voluptuous Vagina’s.  At that point, I had been making a vaginal cream / ointment for a couple of years. I had friends and clients who complained of the vaginal dryness and issues that accompany aging in our amazing female bodies. I, of course, recommended all of the whole health lifestyle changes but I also whipped up this above Luxe Feminine Emollient pictured as I had a 60 year old gal friend who wanted relief and comfortable sex with her new man. It is now several years later and I have shared the formula with a handful (or two) of friends and clients who just love it!

I was telling my acupunturist friend & soul sister, Shelby Connelly, of this magic elixir I make for friends and she said…

  • Let’s perfect it and go into business together. I said,
  • You are kidding, right?  To which she replied…
  • Hell No!

And so the story goes… we have started our self care, self healing business together.

Stay tuned for more info on Voluptuous Vagina being released for sale. Info will come through:

Sending healing, feminine love, Paula

 

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New Book: Lucy Pearce, Full Circle Health

From Lucy Pearce, Cork, Ireland… powerful female writer!

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“So… Full Circle Health… the book I wrote when I couldn’t write Medicine Woman in the first part of this year… is available to pre-order! I’m very proud of it – it’s not just a book… but a charting system!

http://shop.womancraftpublishing.com/Full-Circle-Health-integrated-health-charting-for-p/fch.htm

For most of my adult life I have been trying to explore and express what it means to inhabit my cyclical female body. I have picked up many tools and tried many approaches to charting my inner and outer life. I have charted my menstrual cycles, my moods, energy, habits, food intake, dreams… This was done in various written journals, sketchbooks, Excel spreadsheets, Leonie Dawson’s Life and Business Planners… not to mention my dream journal and cycle-tracking diary. So many books and scraps of paper piled beside my bed, with my computer balanced precariously on top. Keeping track of my health and life was almost a full-time job… but guaranteed I could never lay my hands on the right book at the right time.”

Weaving My Way Into Menopause

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Everywhere I look there are posts and article enticing me to take back my sexy, regain my libido, bring back the magic even in the midst of my moving into my menopausal years. I giggle at this constant urging to maintain the juiciness of my 20’s, 30’s, hell even my 40’s.

What if I don’t want to?!?!   wink

I think of my grandmothers at 52 (OK, I am almost 52). My Grams were not sporting around in lycra enhanced-legging style jeans, high heels, and low cut tops showing off cleavage (and one of my Grams had quite the cleavage to show off had she been so inclined).       They were being wise women, Grammas, women in the fall and winter seasons of their lives, crones with a twinkle! No pressure to have perky breasts and saunter out into the world looking and acting sexy.

I am not saying I am getting old. Hell, not even close my friends! I have many decades to indulge in the the pleasures and challenges of life:

  • yoga
  • mountain climbing
  • my kids & pets
  • hiking, canoeing, kayaking, and swimming about the ADK Mountains
  • hell, swimming in my backyard woods
  • diving deeper into my healer skills
  • hanging with my partner
  • music
  • friends
  • good food
  • gardening
  • making my community a better place for all
  • fun, fun, fun   (and not necessarily in this order)

As humans we only have a certain amount of energy to expend in a day’s time or over a lifetime. Some of us are more energetic than others… never the less, there is a finite amount of energy. When we no longer ovulate, creating that hormonal drive to procreate and pursue the best sperm donor (the innate drive to have sex!), our energies shift elsewhere. We focus on other things. This is a natural phenomena.

When a female dog (or any mammal) no longer ovulates and “goes into heat” said dog is not out looking for a hot male to stand for. Have a dog spayed, surgical menopause, and the lack of interest in standing for a male is immediate. No one expects that female dog to keep strutting her stuff.

I am told, when one moves through the initial years of menopausal happenings and a lack of desire (most of the time) that this desire thing returns. Returns in a different way… not the hormonal driven desire but as a gentler sort of desire. Hmm, thoughts ladies? If only we still lived in community sharing our wisdom from generation to generation…

Thoughts are always welcome, in fact, encouraged!

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Grab your FREE copy of my Menopausal Magic eBook:

http://www.paulayoumellrn.com/magical-menopause-ebook/

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Why You Should Use Organic Menstrual Care Products

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Females: Know what you are putting in and on your body. The mucous membranes of the vaginal area are very sensitive and blood rich tissue. This means the blood circulation in this area pulls toxins into your blood stream easily.

Consider using organically grown cotton made pads and tampons, organic cotton reusable pads, sea sponge tampons, moon cup /menstrual cups. I will post sites to learn and possibly purchase from below.

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I LOVE my Luna Pad, organic, no dye, reusable pads. It is so easy to remove the top layer liner pad and replace it before you soak through. Which you won’t soak through with Luna pads as they have a soak proof barrier!

Article to read on Roundup toxic pesticide in your menstrual care products:

http://www.herbs-info.com/blog/study-finds-85-percent-of-feminine-hygiene-products-contain-traces-of-roundup-herbicide/

Products that are clean, chemical free, and most are reusable to prevent more garbage pile up in the world:

  1. Reusable pads and tampons: http://gladrags.com/product/240/Jade-%26-Pearl-Sea-Sponge-2-Pack.html
  2. Reusable pads and tampons: http://www.moontimes.co.uk/
  3. Reusable pads and tampons: http://lunapads.com/
  4. Reusable pads and tampons: http://gladrags.com/
  5. Just one brand of menstrual cup: http://divacup.com/
  6. Sea Sponge reusable tampons: http://gladrags.com/product/240/Jade-%26-Pearl-Sea-Sponge-2-Pack.html
  7. Disposable organic pads & tampons (great for travel when carrying reusable used menstrual pads is not convenient): http://www.natracare.com/products/

 

What is a menstrual cup? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menstrual_cup

Awesome book on natural menstruation and feminine energy; much healing information from many wise women (AND all of the book $$$ goes to supply women in 3rd world countries with safe menstrual care products, how cool is that!?)

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Want to learn more about your beautiful female self and your connected-ness to the moon and all life?

♀ MOON SCHOOL: An 8 week eCourse for all females no matter where you are in your life cycle. Relearning the beauty of female ways from menarche to Wise Woman Menopausal years. A beautiful way to reclaim your life force power and wisdom as a female.  Click here for more information.

Love & Light to you as we care for self, others, and the planet as a whole living being, Paula

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Celebrate Our Wisdom Years

Females entering their Menopausal Wisdom Years are in a beautiful energetic space. We have gathered the wisdom of our years as menstruating and creative women: some of us creating into motherhood; some of us creating art, social change, books, you name it; and some of us doing both and more!

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Join DeAnna L’Am’s 3rd Annual

Red Tents in Every Neighborhood – Global Summit:

Freedom in Our Wisdom Years

Enjoy and be inspired by daily 3-5 minute videos from women around the world sharing their wisdom, energy, and insights on being female in these empowering times.

It is FREE!  Share Widely & Wildly with all of your female friends                   (males too who love being inspired by female wisdom!)

Click HERE for our inspirational line up of amazing females & Reserve your Free Spot Now!

Blessings on our journeys as women!  Paula

Voluptuous Vaginas

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The Voluptuous Vagina (located in the box!)

The Vagina is an amazing organ. Truthfully, most females do not give their vagina a second thought unless:

  1. They are having struggles with it,
  2. They want to use it, or
  3. They discover they are pregnant (please refer back to #2).

Women’s mysteries used to be shared knowledge. All females knew the intricacies and expectations of puberty, menarche (first bleeding), sexuality/sensuality, pregnancy, laboring & birthing, postpartum, breastfeeding, and the menopausal years (peri-menopause, menopause, post-menopause) because females shared this information with each other in the moon lodge, menstrual hut, red tent, etc. Women no longer gather together at their bleeding times, taking respite from the world, and sharing womb wisdom with each other. Most females fumble through all these life transitions learning street information from friends, out of books, or the modern-day “Google Knows All” experience.

I am going to focus on #1 above: You are having struggles with your vagina and specifically help for the struggles of the menopausal years. I have clients in their menopausal years who are dealing with symptoms of vaginal aging and the distress this can bring:

  • vaginal atrophy (I truly dislike this word as it is so negative and medicalizes a natural, normal process of aging. Just as our skin on the rest of our body ages, thins, etc. the mucousal membranes are not any different. We cannot stay young, juicy, and plump celled forever. This process is the cycle of life of everything on this planet.)
  • low lubrication for every day living and more so for sexually active menopausal years
  • burning
  • itchiness
  • vaginal spasms
  • vaginismus (painful contracting of the vagina so penetration, even with a finger, is painful and even impossible)
  • achiness…

These vaginal issues are something I never gave a second thought (who does until menopausal years are lurking around the corner). Rarely do females share conversation about such things unless you happen to hang with an amazing groups of females. It is a touchy subject and females are often concerned there is something wrong with them, they will be different, or even seen as strange. As one drifts towards menopause (I still have regularly scheduled monthly bleeding but can see changes between now and 20 years ago) these struggles become more apparent in every day life.

I want to offer up 2 simple solutions for vaginal dryness, burning, itching (assuming symptoms are not caused by an infection): fresh aloe and a wild yam ointment.

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Let us start with aloe. If you are fortunate to have a huge potted aloe, like mine above, this aloe thing is easy. 1. When ready for bed I break off a big juicy leaf (thanking the plant) and 2. cut off a piece about 1 1/2 inches long. The remainder I put in a wide mouth canning jar, cover, and place in the fridge for nightly use) 3. Break open the piece so you expose the gel. 4. Go to bed. When you are lying down, insert the piece of aloe as high up in your vagina as you can. 5. Leave there until AM and then 6. Remove in AM by inserting a finger inside the vagina and dragging out the aloe. Removal an issue for you? Stay tuned, more on this later.

Aloe helps to keep the vagina moist, heals tissue, relieves symptoms of irritated menopausal vaginal mucosa, and even helps with yeast infections. More on vaginal infections later. I also recommend you do something to remove all yeasty discharge from your vagina before putting the aloe or any natural healing remedy into the vagina.

Wild Yam Cream/Lotion/Ointment/Lube

  • Make an ointment with wild yam as the base herb. Add in other soothing herbs for anti-inflammatory properties, healing skin properties, etc.

I teach this process in my Herbal Online Course for teaching you the basics of starting to make and use your own herbal preparations: http://www.paulayoumellrn.com/herbs-for-health-healing/

I am also making this preparation at the Five Elements Living Retreat Center in Colton, NY. This Vaginal Love, Menopausal Magic product will be available for purchase, soon, through Shelby & My collaboration to care and love up women in our circle (our circle is going to get bigger!).

You can use your homemade preparation on & in irritated, dry vaginas and vulvas caused from menopausal symptoms or too much sex!

OR…

Use as a lubricant for happy sex.

Stayed tuned for my next posts on retrieving the aloe from your vagina and healing help for vaginal infections… that yeasty demon!

Cheers and happy wild yam lube making!

Sweetening the Pill… a documentary about hormonal birth control

Sweetening the Pill – a documentary by Abby Epstein and Ricki Lake

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Filmmakers Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein will investigate our current and future choices for contraception in this feature documentary.

DONATE TODAY TO THIS GREAT DOCUMENTARY PROJECT: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/92756815/sweetening-the-pill-a-documentary

About this project

The Guardian recently did an Op-Ed piece on Erika Langhart’s heartbreaking death and shared a short video from Sweetening the Pill footage.

Indie Wire also shared Sweetening the Pill as a Noteworthy Women-Centric Crowdfunding Project to follow. We think so too!

The Wrap released an interview with filmmakers Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein as well as author Holly Grigg Spall on the impact they hope to make with this film.

Is this what your birth control will look like in the 21st century?

DONATE TODAY TO THIS GREAT DOCUMENTARY PROJECT https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/92756815/sweetening-the-pill-a-documentary