Lagging Libido?

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When our health begins to suffer our libido is like the check engine light on our car’s dashboard: a warning to take notice, do something, make changes that invite health & healing into our life.
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So many factors can affect our libido as lifestyle impacts on our reproductive tracts take a heavy toll. Our reproductive tracts are like the canary in the coal mine: when life supporting oxygen is not available the reproductive tract falls ill (the canary dies).

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I invite you to pay attention to what your reproductive tract is telling you: stand up and listen. Make changes for the better and get that lag out of the libido!

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Over the next few months I will offer suggestions to improve your libido which will improve your reproductive tract’s health AND will improve your whole body’s health!

Tip #1:

  1. Nutrition is of top notch importance in the health of your libido, your reproductive tract, and every cell in your body. Feed your body well and every cell functions just the way nature intended that cell to function. A whole body of happy, healthy cells functioning at prime means libido that rocks and health that soars.

Food As Your Healing Tool

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Food is the basis of your body’s health. Food is the bricks and mortar for building vibrant health and longevity. Learning healthy eating habits will stop inflammatory damage that leads to diseases, cancer, and decreased life span. This course is the foundational, bricks & mortar course for all other courses I teach and for the start of your personal health & healing / weight loss plan.

 

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Menopausal Mind… Forever Young

I recall during pregnancy having lapses of memory that were blamed upon the Mommy Mind and the hormones of pregnancy. Here I am at 50 and I am wondering about my menopausal mind. I was keeping track of 2 weeks time to remember to stop and say goodbye to a friend who leaves for the winter. The day I planned to stop and hug her goodbye I find I am 1 week late. How DID I lose track of a whole week?

I asked my dear male partner in rhetorical humor:

“Why can’t I go back to 20?”

To which he replied with his hand over my heart:

“You are always 20 in your heart.”

Funny, but not in my head!

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I would take memory herbs… IF I could remember to take them. Seriously, I am not that bad, just sad about not saying goodbye.

So I remind myself of the beauty of the Menopausal Years:

At menarche a woman enters her power, 
                      Through menstruation she practices her power, 
                           At menopause she becomes her power.
                                                                              Native American Wisdom

Later that day, while driving to pick up my kids at school, I am blessed by this song on the radio: (I am pretty certain the universe was telling me all will be OK.)

Forever Young
May God bless and keep you always
May your wishes all come true
May you always do for others
And let others do for you
May you build a ladder to the stars
And climb on every rung
May you stay forever young
Forever young, forever young
May you stay forever young.
May you grow up to be righteous
May you grow up to be true
May you always know the truth
And see the lights surrounding you
May you always be courageous
Stand upright and be strong
May you stay forever young
Forever young, forever young
May you stay forever young.
May your hands always be busy
May your feet always be swift
May you have a strong foundation
When the winds of changes shift
May your heart always be joyful
And may your song always be sung
May you stay forever young
Forever young,…
About those menopausal years… If you have followed the last 2 years of the Red Tent Summit, then you are wise to the empowerment of female energy spreading in our world. I was invited to share my Wise Woman Wisdom as one of female presenters in February 2016’s Womb-Wise Circle for Red Tent Summit 2016! 
I am honored and excited to share my years of wisdom as a
  • Female,
  • RN,
  • Health & Wellness/Fitness Educator, and
  • Natural Healing Wise Woman Nurse with the world.

If you have not watched the Red Tent Summit in 2014 and 2015, I invite and encourage you to do so in 2016. Red Tent Summit

Blessings of Love, Peace, and healing energy, Paula

Being A Wise Woman

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We are all Wise Women.

We are born Wise Women.

We remain Wise Women every step and stage of our lives.

Living in our modern culture, most of us are not encouraged to use our Wise Women Wisdom.

This Wisdom fades from our memories.

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My path in life has blessed me with many opportunities to regain my Wise Woman Ways: herbs, reiki, holistic health education.

I offer you the opportunity to re-open the door to your Wise Woman Wisdom. Join me in my Herbs for Natural Health online class.

This at home, learn at anytime that is convenient for you class is a simple introduction to the methods of making herbal medicines and herbs specific for each body system.

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Call up your Wise Woman Wisdom. Accept my invitation to learn the magic of herbs. We will work together in an attitude of plant spirit gratitude!

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Menopausal Effects On Our Vulvas & Vaginas

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Vaginal Atrophy, Atrophic Vaginitis… Hmm, not very positive or friendly sounding words.  As an OB/GYN Nurse working in a variety of clinical settings for years, I heard these terms quite frequently.

My reaction was varied depending on the day, my mood, etc.:

  • negative, why do female health matters always seem to be labeled in negative ways
  • clinical (see negative above), why does a normal aging function of  a woman’s body get labeled like it was a disease? Women are not supposed to be reproductively capable for life. It only stands to reason that the reproductive parts of our bodies will not always function like a highly fertile 20 year old.
  • won’t happen to me… sort of like the won’t get pregnant the first time I have sex or as a teen. We are invincible young people and our vaginas will never get old. Our faces won’t wrinkle. Our boobs won’t sag. Oh yeah, and no grey hairs either!

Ta Da! Time to think about these things as I am now 50 and continue to work with women around their health and health care issues. When I hear the words vaginal atrophy or my clients describing symptoms about their vulvas and vaginas, well, the whole things seems closer to home. At 50 years old I can see the changes in my body, in my reproductive tract, and my general level of energy. (Dorothy may not be in Kansas anymore and I am definitely not feeling 20 anymore!)

Symptoms of vaginal & vulva atrophy can include:vulva

  • thinning of the vaginal walls and labia
  • shortening and tightening of the vaginal canal making intercourse difficult or impossible
  • lack of vaginal moisture (vaginal dryness), vulva dryness
  • vaginal  & vulva burning (inflammation)
  • spotting of blood after intercourse
  • discomfort or pain during intercourse
  • pain or burning with urination
  • more frequent urinary tract infections
  • urinary incontinence (involuntary leakage when you cough, sneeze, laugh, lift that bag of groceries or your grandchild…)
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This picture, to me, depicts the Divine Vagina, the Divine Female Reproductive Tract!

So what’s a gal to do to keep her vaginal area comfy and functioning at the capacity she desires at any given time in her peri-menopausal or menopausal life? I have suggestions. They are just that, suggestions. Find what works for you and do it. What works may change over the seasons of the year and at different stages of your life.

My Advice:

Whole food diet: Your body CANNOT function in a healthy manner unless you feed it with the foods nature intended. Yes, for those of you who have listened to me say this for years… decades, I do get sick of hearing myself say it, write it, repeat it over and over. The fact of the matter is your body cells function best with real food. Anything else passing through that trap door on your face and you risk the consequences: unhealthy body including that voluptuous vagina and her friends the vulva, uterus, ovaries, and fallopian tubes. And yes, I will continue to rattle on about whole food eating the rest of my life.

Herbs to THE Rescue: Herbs are foods and will contribute to your whole food lifestyle and your cellular health.

My home made herbal oil infused wild yam lube for all sorts of vaginal needs!

My home made herbal oil infused wild yam lube for all sorts of vaginal needs!

Make a wild yam cream to slather onto your vulva and into your vagina. I made the wild yam lube cream and will share it in a video in my Herbal Online Course for teaching you the basics of starting to make and use your own herbal preparations: http://www.paulayoumellrn.com/herbs-for-health-healing/  Join me for this fun, informative, and health liberating 1 week course.

Or buy it from me!

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red clover vaginal atrophyUse herbs in tinctures, medicinal strength teas, and capsules to enrich your female organ’s health. Three herbs that I love for female health are stinging nettles, red raspberry leaf, and red clover blossoms. Make use of the plant magic we have in our world to prevent and heal health concerns.

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My homemade tinctures for menopausal health. Motherwort is good for hot flashes, moodiness, and a few other common menopausal symptoms. The nettle, red raspberry & red clover tincture is good for cellular health, uterine health, and vaginal atrophy. If you are younger and want to conceive, it makes for a good fertility tonic too!

Avoid synthetic hormones: birth control pills, estrogen replacement, etc. While the short term fix for the inflamed and irritated vagina may seem liberating… the long term consequences are not worth it. Let see: Cancer or an aging vagina… hmm, I’ll work with and around my vagina’s needs thank you very much.

Continue to have a regular sex life. Having sex on a regular basis helps to keep the vagina juicy and the tissues stronger. This makes sense as having sex, having orgasms, enjoying playfulness with your partner releases sexual hormones that keep us younger in more ways than one!

As I walk daily into the menopausal years, I welcome them with open arms. Every season in life brings with it its beauty, its challenges, and the potential for growth as a human being. In the meantime I listen and learn from my elders: what did they do to naturally ease menopausal concerns and welcome their wise woman years? Womanly wisdom is wisdom meant to be shared.

To Learn More About Using Herbs To Contribute To Cellular Health, Reproductive & Menopausal Health, And Longevity Join My Herbs For Natural Health Online Course.

This Is A No Sweat, Straight Forward Class On Making Simple Herbal Medicines And Learning about 3-5 Herbs That Enhance Each Specific Body System For Your Vibrant Health.

I Look Forward To Sharing This Time Honored, Wise Woman Wisdom With You, Paula

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Things I Worry About as a Mom AND Random Thoughts On Female Anatomy & Sensuality

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Things I Worry About As A Mom

  • Will my boys eat whole foods when they fly the coop and maintain the cellular healthy eating habits I have taught them,
  • Texting drivers on the road when my kids (and everyone else’s kids) are out riding their bikes,
  • The fact that my kids rarely go out on their bikes 😦 ,
  • I have brought 2 males into this world and will I let loose 2 more males who are clueless about female sensual anatomy and pleasure? (Trust me there are more worries but I will stop here for now.)

Which leads me to…

Random Thoughts on Female Anatomy and Sensuality

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Much to my kid’s humorous despair, yes, we talk about these things at the dinner table: female anatomy and sensuality, being good partners in a relationship, etc.

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Which of course brings up their ever present questions: “Why can’t you be a normal Mom? Do you think other families have these dinner time discussions?”

To which I reply… “Other people’s dinner time discussions are not my concern. I want to make certain I send happy, healthy males out into this world who will appreciate and love up their women.”

When I was 20 years old I took my first job in OB/GYN nursing working as an office nurse for a fine ON/GYN Doc. I fell in love with Maternity Nursing. Wait, who am I trying to kid? As a student nurse watching my first delivery, I fell in love with Maternity Nursing, but I did my obligatory time, one year as a Med/Surg Nurse, to sharpen all my nursing skills.

I have always been amazed at the miracle of life: two half cells (egg and sperm) come together and create one whole cell. This one cell splits and divides billions and billions of times to create each and every organ system (200 different types of cells doing different jobs in the body!). Does this not amaze you?

Another thing that fascinated me is how the fetal reproductive tract is exactly alike the first 2 months of pregnancy. That is correct; our reproductive tissues look and are exactly alike until about 8 weeks!

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At about 8 weeks if a fetus has the XY chromosome structure  male symbol the fetus begins to produce testosterone which then differentiates the reproductive tract into male organs, genitalia. This is so cool to me: left unchecked by testosterone, the fetus will always develop as a female. Was the Eve created from Adam story a bit off? Hmmmm….

My ramblings about female and male sensuality could go on, will go on, but I must now go bake an apple pie for my darling sons whom I hope to encourage and inspire to be great partners in the ever present dance of love, sensuality, and sexuality that we dance throughout our lifetimes.

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Sweetening the Pill… a documentary about hormonal birth control

Sweetening the Pill – a documentary by Abby Epstein and Ricki Lake

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Filmmakers Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein will investigate our current and future choices for contraception in this feature documentary.

DONATE TODAY TO THIS GREAT DOCUMENTARY PROJECT: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/92756815/sweetening-the-pill-a-documentary

About this project

The Guardian recently did an Op-Ed piece on Erika Langhart’s heartbreaking death and shared a short video from Sweetening the Pill footage.

Indie Wire also shared Sweetening the Pill as a Noteworthy Women-Centric Crowdfunding Project to follow. We think so too!

The Wrap released an interview with filmmakers Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein as well as author Holly Grigg Spall on the impact they hope to make with this film.

Is this what your birth control will look like in the 21st century?

DONATE TODAY TO THIS GREAT DOCUMENTARY PROJECT https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/92756815/sweetening-the-pill-a-documentary

Lost In “The” Vagina

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In my last post: Voluptuous Vagina™s I spoke of placing a split open aloe leaf into the vagina for soothing many common vaginal irritations. I mentioned that if removal of this aloe leaf was a struggle…

Remove in AM by inserting a finger inside the vagina and dragging out the aloe. Removal an issue for you? Stay tuned, more on this later.

Well, I am back for the more on this later part!

Over the years working as a Registered Nurse in various Ob/Gyn settings, I have been able to support and help many women with many things lost in their vaginas. I remember thinking the first time our office (after I started work as the Ob/GYN Nurse) needed to help remove a condom from a woman’s vagina: “why did she not just reach up and get it herself?” I soon forgot this dilemna as the day rolled on with many more patients and their needs and challenges in reproductive health. Over the months and years working in this office the “lost in the vagina” issue arose on many occasions: condoms, tampons forgotten from weeks ago, sex toy objects, and interesting items placed into the vagina to relieve irritations and infections (like my aloe suggestion).

I confess, I was never quite able to wrap my head around the inability to just remove it yourself. Over the years and gently – kindly – lovingly questioning women I realized that lack of anatomical knowledge was a big part of the problem. Women worried the lost item would somehow get lost forever, move into the uterus and perhaps on into the pelvic cavity, etc

Things in the vagina can only get out the way they went in: through the vaginal opening at your vulva.

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The cervical opening at the top of your vagina is tiny. It is just large enough for sperm (microscopic organisms) to enter. Your uterus cramps (contracts) to make the cervical canal open a bit larger for menstrual blood to flow out… even larger with labor contractions to allow the cervix to open for passage of your baby and placenta. Trust me, nothing is moving up into your uterus from the vagina (unless it is microscopic: sperm, bacteria, virus or a health care person purposefully diltates your cervix open to insert an IUD contraceptive device.

If an object got into your vagina, you can get it out.

Vaginal Lost Item Removal Suggestions:

My best suggestion is to just sit on the toilet with legs spread wide and relaxed. Relaxed is key here because if you are tense… so is your vagina and it will clamp down on the aloe (tampon, condom, sex toy, etc.) Deep breathe, relax, and send love to your vaginal area. Reach up into your vagina with your index finger. Push your finger all the way in until you can feel your cervix. Explore a bit, feel around the rim of your cervix. This is such a cool experience to feel and then be able to visualize the inside of your vagina and cervix. Hook your index finger and grab the aloe (or other object) on the way out.

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My next suggestion is using a simple kitchen spoon. Not a large one but a teaspoon you would eat with. Again, assume a relaxed position sitting on the toilet or squatting down towards the floor. Breathe, relax. Place the spoon gently into your vagina, run it up the side of the vaginal wall (not straight up the center of the vaginal vault) and again see if you can reach the cervix. The spoon will stop, see picture above, as it cannot get into the cervical opening. Use the spoon to gently scrape down the sides of the vagina to remove the aloe, tampon, condom, etc. Pretend you are using a small rubber spatula to remove food from the sides of a bowl. Use a small rubber spatula if you are more comfortable with that.

Suggestion 3: get your partner or a friend to help. If you were choking no one would hesitate to help remove the foreign object from your throat. Your vagina is no different. Just a beautiful part of your body.

I urge you to get comfy and familiar with your vagina, your reproductive tract, and your whole beautiful body!

My home made herbal oil infused wild yam lube for all sorts of vaginal needs!

My home made herbal oil infused wild yam lube for all sorts of vaginal needs!

Wild Yam Lube Update:  I made the wild yam lube cream and will share it in a video in my Herbal Online Course for teaching you the basics of starting to make and use your own herbal preparations: http://www.paulayoumellrn.com/herbs-for-health-healing/  Join me for this fun, informative, and health liberating 1 week course.

Voluptuous V™ is available now, click here.

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