Weaving My Way Into Menopause

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Everywhere I look there are posts and article enticing me to take back my sexy, regain my libido, bring back the magic even in the midst of my moving into my menopausal years. I giggle at this constant urging to maintain the juiciness of my 20’s, 30’s, hell even my 40’s.

What if I don’t want to?!?!   wink

I think of my grandmothers at 52 (OK, I am almost 52). My Grams were not sporting around in lycra enhanced-legging style jeans, high heels, and low cut tops showing off cleavage (and one of my Grams had quite the cleavage to show off had she been so inclined).       They were being wise women, Grammas, women in the fall and winter seasons of their lives, crones with a twinkle! No pressure to have perky breasts and saunter out into the world looking and acting sexy.

I am not saying I am getting old. Hell, not even close my friends! I have many decades to indulge in the the pleasures and challenges of life:

  • yoga
  • mountain climbing
  • my kids & pets
  • hiking, canoeing, kayaking, and swimming about the ADK Mountains
  • hell, swimming in my backyard woods
  • diving deeper into my healer skills
  • hanging with my partner
  • music
  • friends
  • good food
  • gardening
  • making my community a better place for all
  • fun, fun, fun   (and not necessarily in this order)

As humans we only have a certain amount of energy to expend in a day’s time or over a lifetime. Some of us are more energetic than others… never the less, there is a finite amount of energy. When we no longer ovulate, creating that hormonal drive to procreate and pursue the best sperm donor (the innate drive to have sex!), our energies shift elsewhere. We focus on other things. This is a natural phenomena.

When a female dog (or any mammal) no longer ovulates and “goes into heat” said dog is not out looking for a hot male to stand for. Have a dog spayed, surgical menopause, and the lack of interest in standing for a male is immediate. No one expects that female dog to keep strutting her stuff.

I am told, when one moves through the initial years of menopausal happenings and a lack of desire (most of the time) that this desire thing returns. Returns in a different way… not the hormonal driven desire but as a gentler sort of desire. Hmm, thoughts ladies? If only we still lived in community sharing our wisdom from generation to generation…

Thoughts are always welcome, in fact, encouraged!

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Celebrate Our Wisdom Years

Females entering their Menopausal Wisdom Years are in a beautiful energetic space. We have gathered the wisdom of our years as menstruating and creative women: some of us creating into motherhood; some of us creating art, social change, books, you name it; and some of us doing both and more!

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Voluptuous Vaginas

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The Voluptuous Vagina (located in the box!)

The Vagina is an amazing organ. Truthfully, most females do not give their vagina a second thought unless:

  1. They are having struggles with it,
  2. They want to use it, or
  3. They discover they are pregnant (please refer back to #2).

Women’s mysteries used to be shared knowledge. All females knew the intricacies and expectations of puberty, menarche (first bleeding), sexuality/sensuality, pregnancy, laboring & birthing, postpartum, breastfeeding, and the menopausal years (peri-menopause, menopause, post-menopause) because females shared this information with each other in the moon lodge, menstrual hut, red tent, etc. Women no longer gather together at their bleeding times, taking respite from the world, and sharing womb wisdom with each other. Most females fumble through all these life transitions learning street information from friends, out of books, or the modern-day “Google Knows All” experience.

I am going to focus on #1 above: You are having struggles with your vagina and specifically help for the struggles of the menopausal years. I have clients in their menopausal years who are dealing with symptoms of vaginal aging and the distress this can bring:

  • vaginal atrophy (I truly dislike this word as it is so negative and medicalizes a natural, normal process of aging. Just as our skin on the rest of our body ages, thins, etc. the mucousal membranes are not any different. We cannot stay young, juicy, and plump celled forever. This process is the cycle of life of everything on this planet.)
  • low lubrication for every day living and more so for sexually active menopausal years
  • burning
  • itchiness
  • vaginal spasms
  • vaginismus (painful contracting of the vagina so penetration, even with a finger, is painful and even impossible)
  • achiness…

These vaginal issues are something I never gave a second thought (who does until menopausal years are lurking around the corner). Rarely do females share conversation about such things unless you happen to hang with an amazing groups of females. It is a touchy subject and females are often concerned there is something wrong with them, they will be different, or even seen as strange. As one drifts towards menopause (I still have regularly scheduled monthly bleeding but can see changes between now and 20 years ago) these struggles become more apparent in every day life.

I want to offer up 2 simple solutions for vaginal dryness, burning, itching (assuming symptoms are not caused by an infection): fresh aloe and a wild yam ointment.

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Let us start with aloe. If you are fortunate to have a huge potted aloe, like mine above, this aloe thing is easy. 1. When ready for bed I break off a big juicy leaf (thanking the plant) and 2. cut off a piece about 1 1/2 inches long. The remainder I put in a wide mouth canning jar, cover, and place in the fridge for nightly use) 3. Break open the piece so you expose the gel. 4. Go to bed. When you are lying down, insert the piece of aloe as high up in your vagina as you can. 5. Leave there until AM and then 6. Remove in AM by inserting a finger inside the vagina and dragging out the aloe. Removal an issue for you? Stay tuned, more on this later.

Aloe helps to keep the vagina moist, heals tissue, relieves symptoms of irritated menopausal vaginal mucosa, and even helps with yeast infections. More on vaginal infections later. I also recommend you do something to remove all yeasty discharge from your vagina before putting the aloe or any natural healing remedy into the vagina.

Wild Yam Cream/Lotion/Ointment/Lube

  • Make an ointment with wild yam as the base herb. Add in other soothing herbs for anti-inflammatory properties, healing skin properties, etc.

I teach this process in my Herbal Online Course for teaching you the basics of starting to make and use your own herbal preparations: http://www.paulayoumellrn.com/herbs-for-health-healing/

I am also making this preparation at the Five Elements Living Retreat Center in Colton, NY. This Vaginal Love, Menopausal Magic product will be available for purchase, soon, through Shelby & My collaboration to care and love up women in our circle (our circle is going to get bigger!).

You can use your homemade preparation on & in irritated, dry vaginas and vulvas caused from menopausal symptoms or too much sex!

OR…

Use as a lubricant for happy sex.

Stayed tuned for my next posts on retrieving the aloe from your vagina and healing help for vaginal infections… that yeasty demon!

Cheers and happy wild yam lube making!

Honoring the Female Within

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Maiden                Maid-Mother           Enchantress           Wise Woman

Women go through phases of our female selves every month during the course of our moon cycle. The 10 lunar months of pregnancy go through the same Maiden (Spring), Maid (Summer), Enchantress (Autumn), and Wise Woman (Winter) energies. Females go through these phases on a larger scale as we live through our entire bleeding – menstrual years. On an even bigger scale, we women go through these phases from our birth to our death. Autumn has to be the notorious 40s!

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At 19 years of age, as a nursing student, I observed my first birth.

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I was fascinated and in total awe of the whole process. When I began to think about it further, what brought this birthing moment to us, I was even more amazed at the miracle and magic that is brought forth by a female’s body. I am still amazed that a half cell, egg, can be fertilized by another half cell, sperm, and create a whole new human being. One cell goes on to form an entire embryo (each and every one of the different organ systems!), placenta, umbilical cord, amniotic sac, and amniotic fluid. That is one very busy little cell!

       The Magical, Creative Uterus

The Magical, Creative Uterus

Sometimes that one cell does all of that busy work twice (identical twins) and even more rarely to form identical quadruplets or more!

This entire process has captivated me from that day in the birthing room when I was 19 years old. I never cease to be amazed at woman’s, human’s, creative capacity.

Over the course of a female’s lifetime she walks the earth as a maiden, a maid-mother, the wild woman enchantress, and finally the wise woman elder.

At menarche a woman enters her power,
Through menstruation she practices her power,
At menopause she becomes her power.
Native American Wisdom

Honor the divine feminine energy within through every phase of your cycle and life for the creative gift it is.

Want to “Re” – learn more about your beautiful female ways? Join Moon School, it is never too late to join or re-learn!  Hugs of love & light, Paula

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Honoring Our Cycle is

Honoring our Divine Female Soul.­

Spring Enlivens Us Because

We Embrace the Winter,

The Full Moon Enchants Us Because

We Invite the New Moon to Wash Over Us,

The Light Nurtures Us Because

We Walk Through the Darkness with Grace.

Females who Embrace Life In the Flow of

Their Cyclical Nature,

Walk in Empowerment

With the Natural Beauty of Themselves.

Paula Youmell, RN

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Moon School: May Day SALE to Empower Your Female Energy

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How a girl crosses into Menarche casts a long shadow over her menstruating years… Make that shadow one of brilliant white light and joy!
How a woman crosses into her Mothering Years (whether she births children, art, great projects, creative endeavors, etc.) casts a shadow over her young and middle adult years… Females Be empowered to create in Joy!
How a woman crosses into Menopause, her Wise Woman Years, casts a shadow over her senior years. Empower our elders by reminding them of their amazing wisdom, strength, and need to be a sturdy voice in both their family & community.
At menarche a woman enters her power, Through menstruation she practices her power, At menopause she becomes her power.
                                                                              Native American Wisdom

Empowering Females to understand the:

  • magic in their menstrual cycles,
  • the power in their cyclic periods, and the
  • understanding in their uterus… the wisdom in their womb

is the gift I present to all females in the Moon School:  Female Moon Cycle Wisdom Training (Online Course)

MAY DAY SALE:  $50 Buck today!   This $50 buck sale was a big success to celebrate my 50th Birthday. Let us now celebrate May Day: Spring, dancing into Summer, and being a Fabulous Female. Online Course Starts May 6th… Join us and I promise you will be glad you did. I Promise! happy face

The More Females Who Re-Gather This Female Wisdom Into Themselves The Better A World We Can Re-Create & Heal!

Join Today, Encourage Your Family & Friends (Males Too!) to Join in the Energy to Heal Self and Our Earth by Re-Balancing Female & Male Energy. It is your gift to yourself and to the Greater Good!  Blessings, Paula

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