Red Tent Summit 2016!

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In the last decade – women have been awakening to the sacredness of our blood…

 

The time has come to look at our WISDOM YEARS:

What Defines Us as Women when we No Longer Bleed?

 

Join me, an array of wise women, and host DeAnna L’am, FREELY — on the 3rd Annual

Red Tents In Every Neighborhood – Global Summit:

Freedom in Our Wisdom Years

 

Prepare the journey toward menopause, through it, and beyond it,

learn to embody your wisdom in full freedom and joy –

from the comfort of your home, in community with thousands of women around the world!

 

You will receive one video every week-daystarting February 1st.

Each video features one luminary, fierce, leading woman

answering Womb Questions with insight, passion, and heart –

and I am honored to be one of them.

 

Join us this Red Feast – Freely!  

Click Here to Reserve your FREE Spot Now!

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Menopausal Effects On Our Vulvas & Vaginas

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Vaginal Atrophy, Atrophic Vaginitis… Hmm, not very positive or friendly sounding words.  As an OB/GYN Nurse working in a variety of clinical settings for years, I heard these terms quite frequently.

My reaction was varied depending on the day, my mood, etc.:

  • negative, why do female health matters always seem to be labeled in negative ways
  • clinical (see negative above), why does a normal aging function of  a woman’s body get labeled like it was a disease? Women are not supposed to be reproductively capable for life. It only stands to reason that the reproductive parts of our bodies will not always function like a highly fertile 20 year old.
  • won’t happen to me… sort of like the won’t get pregnant the first time I have sex or as a teen. We are invincible young people and our vaginas will never get old. Our faces won’t wrinkle. Our boobs won’t sag. Oh yeah, and no grey hairs either!

Ta Da! Time to think about these things as I am now 50 and continue to work with women around their health and health care issues. When I hear the words vaginal atrophy or my clients describing symptoms about their vulvas and vaginas, well, the whole things seems closer to home. At 50 years old I can see the changes in my body, in my reproductive tract, and my general level of energy. (Dorothy may not be in Kansas anymore and I am definitely not feeling 20 anymore!)

Symptoms of vaginal & vulva atrophy can include:vulva

  • thinning of the vaginal walls and labia
  • shortening and tightening of the vaginal canal making intercourse difficult or impossible
  • lack of vaginal moisture (vaginal dryness), vulva dryness
  • vaginal  & vulva burning (inflammation)
  • spotting of blood after intercourse
  • discomfort or pain during intercourse
  • pain or burning with urination
  • more frequent urinary tract infections
  • urinary incontinence (involuntary leakage when you cough, sneeze, laugh, lift that bag of groceries or your grandchild…)
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This picture, to me, depicts the Divine Vagina, the Divine Female Reproductive Tract!

So what’s a gal to do to keep her vaginal area comfy and functioning at the capacity she desires at any given time in her peri-menopausal or menopausal life? I have suggestions. They are just that, suggestions. Find what works for you and do it. What works may change over the seasons of the year and at different stages of your life.

My Advice:

Whole food diet: Your body CANNOT function in a healthy manner unless you feed it with the foods nature intended. Yes, for those of you who have listened to me say this for years… decades, I do get sick of hearing myself say it, write it, repeat it over and over. The fact of the matter is your body cells function best with real food. Anything else passing through that trap door on your face and you risk the consequences: unhealthy body including that voluptuous vagina and her friends the vulva, uterus, ovaries, and fallopian tubes. And yes, I will continue to rattle on about whole food eating the rest of my life.

Herbs to THE Rescue: Herbs are foods and will contribute to your whole food lifestyle and your cellular health.

My home made herbal oil infused wild yam lube for all sorts of vaginal needs!

My home made herbal oil infused wild yam lube for all sorts of vaginal needs!

Make a wild yam cream to slather onto your vulva and into your vagina. I made the wild yam lube cream and will share it in a video in my Herbal Online Course for teaching you the basics of starting to make and use your own herbal preparations: http://www.paulayoumellrn.com/herbs-for-health-healing/  Join me for this fun, informative, and health liberating 1 week course.

Or buy it from me!

Voluptuous V™ is available now, click here.

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red clover vaginal atrophyUse herbs in tinctures, medicinal strength teas, and capsules to enrich your female organ’s health. Three herbs that I love for female health are stinging nettles, red raspberry leaf, and red clover blossoms. Make use of the plant magic we have in our world to prevent and heal health concerns.

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My homemade tinctures for menopausal health. Motherwort is good for hot flashes, moodiness, and a few other common menopausal symptoms. The nettle, red raspberry & red clover tincture is good for cellular health, uterine health, and vaginal atrophy. If you are younger and want to conceive, it makes for a good fertility tonic too!

Avoid synthetic hormones: birth control pills, estrogen replacement, etc. While the short term fix for the inflamed and irritated vagina may seem liberating… the long term consequences are not worth it. Let see: Cancer or an aging vagina… hmm, I’ll work with and around my vagina’s needs thank you very much.

Continue to have a regular sex life. Having sex on a regular basis helps to keep the vagina juicy and the tissues stronger. This makes sense as having sex, having orgasms, enjoying playfulness with your partner releases sexual hormones that keep us younger in more ways than one!

As I walk daily into the menopausal years, I welcome them with open arms. Every season in life brings with it its beauty, its challenges, and the potential for growth as a human being. In the meantime I listen and learn from my elders: what did they do to naturally ease menopausal concerns and welcome their wise woman years? Womanly wisdom is wisdom meant to be shared.

To Learn More About Using Herbs To Contribute To Cellular Health, Reproductive & Menopausal Health, And Longevity Join My Herbs For Natural Health Online Course.

This Is A No Sweat, Straight Forward Class On Making Simple Herbal Medicines And Learning about 3-5 Herbs That Enhance Each Specific Body System For Your Vibrant Health.

I Look Forward To Sharing This Time Honored, Wise Woman Wisdom With You, Paula

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Wild Yam… A Gal’s Best Friend!

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I have praised the virtues of wild yam before.  I am writing to remind you how this blessed, natural plant can help to re-balance your menstrual cycles and female reproductive health.

Things wild yam can do for your fantastic female body: (Men, pass this along to your lady friends, they may just thank you!)

Wild Yams Virtues:

  • end menstrual migraines: those pesky migraines that come on when hormones shift with your cycles, say around ovulation and/or around when your moon flow starts,
  • helps to bring your menstrual cycle into a more regular rhythm,
  • eases PMS,
  • lessens cramping at the beginning of your moon flow (will ease cramping post child birthing too!),
  • got heavy bleeding issues… wild yam will slow that funky stuff down.  My flow became sporadically heavy after I turned 40.  Wild yam doses daily and my period is a light flow and no more unexpected “gushes” in public soaking through every piece of clothing! Grateful that issue is finished in my life,
  • low doses increase fertility, high doses create a birth control effect (without the nasty side effects of synthetic hormones and putting yourself at risk for birth control induced breast cancer, etc.),
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  • traditionally used to treat threatened miscarriage with uterine contractions present, combined with Cramp bark, Black Haw, or False Unicorn,
  • increases the flow of Chi, Life Force Energy, to your reproductive tract. This is a good thing, energy brings healing,
  • traditionally used to ease nausea and vomiting in pregnancy*,
  • eases menopausal symptoms,
  • Got PCOS?  Try wild yam…,
  • wild yam is anti-inflammatory and is used for many inflammatory conditions such as arthritis, inflammatory bowel diseases, gall bladder disease, muscle cramps, spasmodic asthma, intestinal cramps, endometriosis, etc.

Wild yam is amazing, on its own, and in combination with other female healing herbs: Stinging nettles, cramp bark, red raspberry leaf, Cramp bark, Black haw, False unicorn, motherwort, black and blue cohoshes…. to name just a few amazing, healing female herbs!

(*Make certain you get help from a skilled herbalist when using herbs during pregnancy.  Keep in mind that herbs are safe, whole foods for our bodies!)

 

Voluptuous Vagina™s

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The Voluptuous Vagina™ (located in the box!)

The Vagina is an amazing organ. Truthfully, most females do not give their vagina a second thought unless:

  1. They are having struggles with it,
  2. They want to use it, or
  3. They discover they are pregnant (please refer back to #2).

Women’s mysteries used to be shared knowledge. All females knew the intricacies and expectations of puberty, menarche (first bleeding), sexuality/sensuality, pregnancy, laboring & birthing, postpartum, breastfeeding, and the menopausal years (peri-menopause, menopause, post-menopause) because females shared this information with each other in the moon lodge, menstrual hut, red tent, etc. Women no longer gather together at their bleeding times, taking respite from the world, and sharing womb wisdom with each other. Most females fumble through all these life transitions learning street information from friends, out of books, or the modern-day “Google Knows All” experience.

I am going to focus on #1 above: You are having struggles with your vagina and specifically help for the struggles of the menopausal years. I have clients in their menopausal years who are dealing with symptoms of vaginal aging and the distress this can bring:

  • vaginal atrophy (I truly dislike this word as it is so negative and medicalizes a natural, normal process of aging. Just as our skin on the rest of our body ages, thins, etc. the mucousal membranes are not any different. We cannot stay young, juicy, and plump celled forever. This process is the cycle of life of everything on this planet.)
  • low lubrication for every day living and more so for sexually active menopausal years
  • burning
  • itchiness
  • vaginal spasms
  • vaginismus (painful contracting of the vagina so penetration, even with a finger, is painful and even impossible)
  • achiness…

These vaginal issues are something I never gave a second thought (who does until menopausal years are lurking around the corner). Rarely do females share conversation about such things unless you happen to hang with an amazing groups of females. It is a touchy subject and females are often concerned there is something wrong with them, they will be different, or even seen as strange. As one drifts towards menopause (I still have regularly scheduled monthly bleeding but can see changes between now and 20 years ago) these struggles become more apparent in every day life.

I want to offer up 2 simple solutions for vaginal dryness, burning, itching (assuming symptoms are not caused by an infection): fresh aloe and a wild yam ointment.

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Let us start with aloe. If you are fortunate to have a huge potted aloe, like mine above, this aloe thing is easy. 1. When ready for bed I break off a big juicy leaf (thanking the plant) and 2. cut off a piece about 1 1/2 inches long. The remainder I put in a wide mouth canning jar, cover, and place in the fridge for nightly use) 3. Break open the piece so you expose the gel. 4. Go to bed. When you are lying down, insert the piece of aloe as high up in your vagina as you can. 5. Leave there until AM and then 6. Remove in AM by inserting a finger inside the vagina and dragging out the aloe. Removal an issue for you? Stay tuned, more on this later.

Aloe helps to keep the vagina moist, heals tissue, relieves symptoms of irritated menopausal vaginal mucosa, and even helps with yeast infections. More on vaginal infections later. I also recommend you do something to remove all yeasty discharge from your vagina before putting the aloe or any natural healing remedy into the vagina.

Wild Yam Cream/Lotion/Ointment/Lube

  • Make an ointment with wild yam as the base herb. Add in other soothing herbs for anti-inflammatory properties, healing skin properties, etc.

I teach this process in my Herbal Online Course for teaching you the basics of starting to make and use your own herbal preparations: http://www.paulayoumellrn.com/herbs-for-health-healing/

I am also making this preparation at the Five Elements Living Retreat Center in Colton, NY. This Vaginal Love, Menopausal Magic product is available for purchase through Shelby & My collaboration to care and love up women in our circle (our women’s circle is going to get bigger!).

Voluptuous V™ is available now, click here.                 VV™ for short.

You can use Voluptuous V™ (VV™)on & in irritated, dry vaginas and vulvas caused from menopausal symptoms or too much sex!

OR…

Use as a lubricant for happy sex.

 

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Stayed tuned for my next posts on retrieving the aloe from your vagina and healing help for vaginal infections… that yeasty demon!

Cheers and happy wild yam lube making!

Raising Daughters in the Red Tent

Raising Daughters in the Red Tent

Stefanie Miosga

Dresden, Germany

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Check out Stefanie on her German website, Google will translate! http://www.roteszelt.de/uumlber-mich.html

One of the biggest driving factors for me to work in the red tent movement is the fact that I have three young daughters. I want to contribute to their puberty, menarche, and budding femininity being reasons for joyful, excited anticipation. Our generation plays a wonderful part in that: we are the bridge, it is in our hands to initiate the transformation of femininity from shame to a power source.

It was two years ago that my mother took me aside. When two of my daughters were staying with my parents, my mother found one of my cloth pads. It must have slipped into the kids’ clothing after washing. She told me I had to be more careful and that it didn’t do that my kids noticed something like that. When my father entered the room, she even sent him out, as if we were talking about something illegal.

At that time I had only just heard of red tents on the internet. It dawned on me that, as long as women like her, after raising daughters and finishing their fertile years themselves, and are still so ashamed about something like cloth pads, our world is in desperate need of this work!

A while back, my oldest daughter (she’s almost 10) asked me loudly in the crowded school yard: “Mama, do you have a monthly bleeding?“ She had browsed through her science school book and her curiosity was aroused. Her 7 year-old sister was with us and all ears.

Thanks to DeAnna L’am’s wonderful Diva’s Guide to getting your Period, for young girls, which I translated into German last year (“Tanz mit dem Mond“, available in the shop at my website), I had a beautiful, sincere and pleasant explanation for the girls at my hands. Just like birds build a nest before laying their eggs, so our womb builds a nest out of uterus lining, for when a baby starts to grow there. If we don’t conceive, we shed the lining mixed with blood, which results in menstruation. We were not embarrassed. I didn’t embellish anything nor did I tell horror stories. All was clear; the girls were content. They asked what a woman is doing with the blood and I told them briefly about cloth pads vs. disposable pads.

Back when I got my first period, I was “informed” that this will happen because I have an older sister. Still, I didn’t dare tell my mother about it.  When she found out, it was an embarrassing, bleak affair when we talked about periods for almost the only time ever.

I hardly believe that my mother was welcomed into womanhood by her own mother, so how was she supposed to do things differently with her daughters? How was she supposed to know that there was another way? It wasn’t talked about, period (pun intended). Had I asked a question like my daughter did in public, I would probably have been silenced, and later we wouldn’t have talked about it either.

If we want to create a more open environment for our daughters, it is important to start with ourselves. How many of us carry around handed-down taboos, think of their menstruation as a curse and a burden, to only look forward to menopause because of the promise of no more bleeding, and would rather die than talk to anybody about periods?

The good news is: We can still recognize, honour, and welcome the girl we were at our menarche into womanhood today. We can give that to ourselves and each other. We need the company of other women to break the taboos, to celebrate our femininity, to honour, and give each other space to be ourselves.

We can call into being red tents, moon lodges, temple groups, or however we want to call our women’s circles. There we get in touch with our own womanhood. Let’s also bring our adolescent daughters into the groups, their energy gives us at least as much as the wisdom of age gives to them! Our smart daughters won’t buy make-believe joy about their first period from us and don’t suddenly feel like a real woman, as long as we can’t honestly model to them that being a woman is a thing of power, beauty and dignity.

As we heal ourselves, we heal the next generation, healing half of the world’s population one woman at a time.  This healed half radiates healing to the other half!  Ambitious? Yes, and it works when we start with ourselves.

Thank you Stefanie for sharing your story, your journey, a journey many of us lived as well.  I am raising 2 beautiful male souls.  They have always known what my moon cycle is.  Kids ask questions.  Kids hang out with mom in the bathroom (along with the cats, and the dog…).  I never excluded them because I was “bleeding” and they should not know, see, be aware.  They know and they will, hopefully, be better men prepared to embrace strong, powerful, divine women who are thrilled with their feminine energy and cycle!

Red Tent Summit

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My desire to start this blog was inspired by feminine energy and the Red Tent Summit: http://www.deannalam.com/summit-3/

Day one was Brook Medicine Eagle’s words of wisdom around female energy and the red tent, day 2 brought us Susun Weed’s wisdom….

I encourage you to sign up and catch the whole month’s worth of wise women from around the globe sharing their thoughts on life with a red tent in the neighborhood.

I plan to use this blog to share my thoughts and ideas, my wisdom and experience around issues important to women’s health care, real woman centered health care…. women caring for women in matriarchal ways.  As a woman with three decades of experience in women’s holistic health care, I wish to share my wise woman’s ways.  (See my About page.)

BC pills

ablation

natural birth control

sacred female energy

PMS

menopause

Libido or lack of as we age

circumcision

natural menstrual products and care

herbs for every phase of our feminine energy

c-sections

natural child birth

nursing

whole food feeding kids, self, and family

hysterectomy

mastectomy

the list goes on & on…….. May your feminine energy flow and shine like the divine female you are!

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